Updated: Feb 17, 2021
Not only is it okay to not feel ‘okay,’ it is essential.
Our society does not accept the fact that you can be sad and be strong at the same time.
They consider being sad as a sign of weakness. This is not true -- if you have to hold your emotions within yourself then you would explode. We all have happy and sad days. One day you are on top of the world and the next day you are down. No one can feel the same way every time. No emotion is permanent. Feeling sad and anxious about your uncertain future is normal. Crying after getting into a fight with your partner or friend is normal. Feeling disturbed because of heartbreak is normal. When we think we might lose something we care about, that’s sad. When we don’t know what to expect next, that’s scary.
Let yourself accept all the feelings, thoughts and emotions. We need to let ourselves experience painful feelings if we ever want to truly let them pass through us. Not only that but also acknowledge our emotional responses to different situations. Ignoring or avoiding any kind of discomfort feelings would lead to emotional disturbance. You need to confront those emotions in order to have peace of mind, otherwise you would face disrupted sleep, increased substance abuse, risk of an acute stress response, anxiety, depression, and even post traumatic stress disorder.
All those who are dealing with mental health issues have the pressure to always seem happy. When we feel low or down we put up a mask of smile, hiding the darkness.
Sometimes you might feel that there is no apparent reason to feel depressed. You feel like there is so much in your head, and this leads to pushing people away and being alone.
We do this because we don't want to bother others with our problems and try to forget whatever we are feeling. But we need to get through our problems rather than ignoring them.
Whether that is talking to someone about what is going on, finding answers to what is causing that emotion, or using coping skills such as yoga, meditation, journalizing, proper diet and so many other healthy ideas, there are ways to help you get through the bad days.
Our life is full of ups and downs, which shapes us into the people we are today.
Feel your emotions. Sit with them. Let them pass. It's Okay.
Source : Emotional Intelligence - Harvard Business Review